The notion that one will not survive a particular catastrophe is, in general terms, a comfort since it is equivalent to abolishing the catastrophe. – Iris Murdoch
But fantasy kills imagination, pornography is death to art. – Iris Murdoch
One doesnt have to get anywhere in a marriage. Its not a public conveyance. – Iris Murdoch
Every man needs two women: a quiet home-maker, and a thrilling nymph. – Iris Murdoch
The priesthood is a marriage. People often start by falling in love, and they go on for years without realizing that love must change into some other love which is so unlike it that it can hardly be recognized as love at all. – Iris Murdoch
In almost every marriage there is a selfish and an unselfish partner. A pattern is set up and soon becomes inflexible, of one person always making the demands and one person always giving way. – Iris Murdoch
Falling out of love is chiefly a matter of forgetting how charming someone is. – Iris Murdoch
We can only learn to love by loving. – Iris Murdoch
We shall be better prepared for the future if we see how terrible, how doomed the present is. – Iris Murdoch
The cry of equality pulls everyone down. – Iris Murdoch
There is no substitute for the comfort supplied by the utterly taken-for granted relationship. – Iris Murdoch
Happiness is a matter of one’s most ordinary and everyday mode of consciousness being busy and lively and unconcerned with self. – Iris Murdoch
